Capitolo 20
the indulgence in what is harmful or I wins, is undoubtedly very alone. But
the damage is not in the same indulgence--or, in the action to afford himself/herself/themselves
the gratification to his/her/their child--but in the harmful one or dangerous nature of the
things satisfied in. It seems to me that children have not generally satisfied
enough. They is opposed and they contained him in in comparison to the gratification of
their harmless wishes a great quantity too much. Indeed, as a general rule, the
more than children are gratified in in comparison to childish desires them
and impulses, and also their whims, when anybody bad or danger it has to be
learned, the best.
When, therefore, does a child ask, "May I do this?" or, "May I do that?" the
you question for his/her mother to consider it is not if the proposed thing is a
wise or a foolish thing to do--or, if it were wise or foolish
for _her_, if her, with his/her ideas and the feelings it was in the place of the
child--but only if there am some damage or danger him; and if not, her
you/he/she should give her ready and cordial approval.
_Antagonism among the indulgence Free and Control_ Assoluto.
There is no necessary antagonism, neither also some discordance, among the
freer the indulgence of children and the maintenance of the most absolute
authority on them. The authority can be more easily established indeed,
in the connection with great liberality of the indulgence. In every case, it will be
very evident, on reflection that the two principles don't sustain at all
in opposition to each other, as it is often vaguely supposed. Children can be
greatly it satisfied, and he/she perfectly anchors it governed. On the other hand them they are able
is continually checked and it opposed, and their lives they did miserable from a
succession continued of irritations, restrictions and refusals, and he/she anchors not
is governed at all. An example will illustrate however better, this.
_Mode of Management with Louisa_.
A mother, while going to the village from a run through the fields, proposed to her