Capitolo 17
the obedience to a command remains on the principle of simple subjugation to
authority, the easiest and it will be better both for parent and child.
_Manner to practice Authority_.
You leave that any reader falls in the error to suppose that his/her mother is doing
his/her authority the base of his/her government first hands of plaster it necessary for her to
supposes an austere and severe aspect toward his/her children, in his/her relationships
with them; or to publish his/her commands in a sour, sudden, and imperious
way; or always to control himself/herself/themselves to explain, to the duration, the reasons for
a command or a prohibition. The kindest the way and the some kind
and polite the tones in which the wishes of his/her/their mother are express the,
better, provident only that the wishes, however express, really it is the
orders of an authority that suffered you/he/she will be produced to without question
or delay. You can say, "Mary, please wants her to leave Your doll and to take
this letter for me in the library to Your father?" or, "Johnny, in five
minutes it will be time for you to put away Your blocks to go in bed; ME
tells him when the time is out; " or, "James, looks at the clock"--to
you call his/her attention to the fact that the time has reached for him to go
school. Any matter, in a word under as mild and he/she tames a form his/her mother
commands are given, provident only that his/her children are trained
understands that they immediately will be respected.
_A according to Objection_.
Another great class of mothers is dissuaded by to do some efficient
effort to establish with this their authority on their children for fear of
alienating their affections. "I wish to love me" my child, says a mother of
this class. "That is the supreme one and never-stopping wish of my heart; and if
I am continually opposing and I am forcing her/it from my authority, her the wish
soon you learn to consider me an obstacle to his/her happiness, and I will become
an object of his/her aversion and the antipathy."